Last night was amazing!
We went to Clayton residential home.
To recap their website is:
So it was quite a trip! First of all like I said the other day I wasn’t even sure we’d be going.
But anyway we got all ready. So happy both Jess and I took PRNS.
So the ride was like a half hour to forty minutes late. Thank goodness they gave plenty of time. That set my anxiety sky high. Then we had traffic city going over. It was slow and just OMG! Didn’t think we’d have any time to do any kinda tour once we finally got there.
When we did the art fair was in total full swing. The activity room on the first floor was totally full. I do not do well in crowded places with a lot of noise.
So we stood in there for like a minute and then found Jessica. Was so happy to see her after four years! We were joking about how every so often I “remind her” that I want to move and then don’t.
We met the assistant director and director of nursing, Kris and Mani.
So the first floor basically has: a small reception area. The one nurse’s station. The activity room. Computer Lab. Dining Room. Some offices we didn’t get a chance to see. And I think that’s it.
We didn’t get a chance to meet the clinical director because she had gone home. We did meet the admissions director David. Who said to just have our caseworkers send over a packet and we’d do some more talking and it likely would be no problem! He was very nice.
We met Spencer from activities. And I think a couple other activity people I don’t remember. I
honestly don’t like activities much. I don’t like board or card games. Or much tv or movies that others like. I think it’s my autistic self. Like have heard it’s common that when you’re autistic you don’t like follow the crowd or it’s hard to. Like you don’t get the importance, or really value, watching/ doing something for the sake of being social in and of itself. Or so I’ve read. So anyway. My little tangent on activities.
But they seemed really nice. We finally got to sit down in the dining room which was small. Way less noisy than the hallway but still noisy. They don’t have any other choices like grilled cheese or hot dog or anything, if you don’t like the two meal options. Then again it’s not like they have that here. I think Margaret Manor said they did. But anyway. It’s the same as here people just get their food. Not sure if they have a card system with different diets. One thing we noticed generally is that there weren’t any people on walkers. Which was good as there was more space to walk. Also people actually moved out of the way when they saw you coming!
So I asked about the whole money thing. Me continuing to be my own payee thing. And she totally was like that’s ok! Total weight off my shoulders. So don’t have to worry about losing my bank account.
We asked about nursing. Like I said only one nurse’s station. Nursing is 24/7 like here. Half the alphabet is at one window and half at the other. I guess you just stand in line at whatever time. Not sure they call people. Oh she said you have a facility wide phone in your room that can call you/ you can call extensions. Which is better than call lights that never get answered.
She said they do have a self-medication program. Where if you show that you know what your meds are/ can take them safely I guess you can avoid the line somehow? Not sure if it means you can take your meds to your own room like for each day or what. They have I think two or three RSAS, what they used to call CNAS per floor all the time.
The Dr.s here for psych are Patel, LOL no! and this guy Clare. He works at St. Josiphs. So Jess and I both want him.
Forget who are medical doctors. She said Sha, but don’t know if it’s a-sha or bk-sha or some other sha. That’s a popular name!
No female doctors boo!
So we moved on to case managers. There are 15. They work from seven in the morning til eleven at night seven days a week. Then there are always three crisis workers present. The crisis unit is on the fourth floor I think, towards the back. It’s if you’re getting unstable/ in crisis, duh, and they give you more attention and care. But actual attention not sitting in an observation room watching people talk about their “homegirls/ boyfriends” or watch daytime tv!
They have 30 groups a week! Skills based stuff. Women’s young adult, and probably men’s groups. Art therapy and music therapy, by licensed therapists!
I asked if they had a process/ psychotherapy group, she said no. But maybe the women’s/ other groups are more support/ check in based. Just something less skills based to lighten things up is always good. They have cooking! They go to the store and everything.
They have a points system. You decide your goals for the week and point values for things. Then you earn your points and you can buy things at the incentive store. Residents help run that. Some work in the computer lab, in activities, in the library. They can basically find a job for anyone. So that gives you cash. You’re also put in raphils for different groups on attendance. So yeah lots of easy cash!
The peer support specialist is named Helin. She comes once a week to do WRAP. So that’s cool. They have a licensed therapist on staff. And interns that others supervise. I gather most staff there have masters degrees and are working on getting licensed.
There are four floors. About 60 single rooms on each floor. We didn’t get to the floors, which I want to see all of, so can’t really describe til I walk around them. I guess there’s a tv room on each floor. Most rooms have a bed, desk, dresser, closet, and randomly, a sink but no toilet or shower. Most rooms. There are some, I don’t know how many that do have bathrooms with showers. Should we move there I will be working to get one of those rooms. Not sure I’d feel comfortable living in a room without a bathroom but we’ll see. I guess they do have public showers and I’d imagine bathrooms. Again didn’t get to see that.
What else? Oh pets! Found this out at the very end but want to say it now. Jess happened to ask about pets. I didn’t expect anything to come out of it because I know most facilities don’t do that other than the occasional therapy dog. But she said no. They have four Guinea Pigs! I couldn’t believe my ears. My ears almost fell off my head when she said residents can have their own pets! Someone has a bird, two different people have a cat each, and someone has a hamster. I was like OMG OMG seriously?
Jess of course was like I want a ferritt!
It would take a whole lot to be able to do that as it should. As a matter of fact Sammy being her excited self, I wrote up a whole in depth proposal for a group around pet preparation and care. Not that I know that much about pets at all. Even though we’ve had a bunch. Wish my cousin Erica were there. She loves animals and has had a total zoo!
But anyway obviously budgeting, cleaning, and the emotional/ mental maturity/ stability to care for a pet would be huge. Hence the preparation model I came up with. I caught myself using “we” in what I wrote then was like wait I haven’t even moved there yet! Then I’m like oh well Jessica won’t mind.
They probably do have their own system. Just didn’t get a chance to talk about it.
Oh and with cleaning. The place smelled awesome. Even if you had a totally clean activity room, if you had the number of residents from here in there it would smell disgusting in like five minutes. There it didn’t at all. I was like OMG these people shower!
We asked on how often housekeeping is here. She said someone is there 24 hours a day. But they only clean the rooms once a week. Not happy about this I asked kinda joking if we could clean the rooms. She’s like yes!
LOL I soo will learn to clean though only because I hate mess! Like spills junk on the floor dirty bathroom. I’ll be chasing Jess around her or my room with a push sweeper thing so I don’t electroqute myself LOL!
But yeah learning to clean won’t kill me.
So I was very impressed!
Now to the fun. We went into the art show when the music therapist, Casey, did her performance. And it was a totally competent music therapist leading her group. Like just as it should be. She was confident vocally and on her guitar. They did a song they changed the lyrics to, a common music therapy trick. They sang well and more importantly had a good rapport with her. I was impressed!
Similarly I had a little talk with Angela the art therapist. There was actually a fair amount of stuff I could touch. Really good jewelry, not cheap beads for the most part, keychains with cool stuff on them, and she said she does sculpture and yarn work. So she won’t subject me to endless “drawing” as if that’s helpful.
Right away I asked Jessica if I could see Casey individually. She said they didn’t have that set up and she only comes once a week but we could see. I was just impressed they had them at all.
So we said goodbye with the promise that our next visit we could have a more relaxed leisurely tour and a meal! We had another long ride home with a pickup downtown. But it was worth it totally. Told mom about it all and she’s like when can you move in! We haven’t gotten there yet! But did write Jessica today about possible next week plans. Though Monday and Tuesday are out for us.
Thanks loyal readers for reading my long exciting ramble!